In this series, we’ll be covering important areas and useful tips on all things Family Law. First up, A and B…
Even if you don’t agree with your partner’s point of view, it’s really important to at least acknowledge it as being his/her view before explaining why you don’t agree. Quite often people just want to be heard and if their view is not acknowledged, it can lead them to feel that their opinions are irrelevant and not important.
One of the most important aspects of the recovery process following death of a loved one or the loss of a marriage is getting to the point of acceptance. Once you reach this, it can often be easier to make plans for the future.
We talk a lot in family disputes about reaching an agreement, whether that be in relation to financial or children issues. Couples usually find it more palatable to work within a settlement that they’ve agreed themselves rather than one that’s been imposed upon them by a court.
In any negotiation process it’s important to be aware of the other party’s wish list and, if possible, to accommodate it where you can if this doesn’t adversely impact on you. You’ll then find the other side will do the same for you.
When a relationship comes to an end, the range of emotions that a person may feel is entirely similar to those we all experience on the death of a loved one. It’s normal to feel a sense of loss and grief.
Don’t forget to notify your bank of your separation or divorce. It may be necessary to notify them that you’ve moved out of the family home. It’s also important if you’ve a joint account, so they can make a note on their system to this effect.
There are plenty of really good books out there – both for adults and children – that deal with the issue of divorce and separation. You can download our recommended reading lists here:
It’s a normal reaction to blame your partner for the breakdown of the relationship, but in our experience it’s rarely that simple. At the moment, the two most common grounds for divorce (unreasonable behaviour and adultery) attach blame very squarely onto a particular party’s shoulders. We’d very much like to see no-fault divorce coming in so that couples who’ve decided to separate or divorce can do so without having to state who’s to blame.
Next week, we look at the C & D of Family Law.