The A to Z of Family Law – M, N & O

This week, we talk you through maiden names, negotiations, occupational orders and objectives.



If you want to go back to your maiden name, you can. We recommend that you do a Change of Name Deed to make it official.


As tempting as it is, just remember that it’s unlawful to open someone else’s mail.


It can feel like it’s one big mess. Our job is to help you unravel it all and point you in the right direction.


Children are often inadvertently caught up in the middle of their parents’ dispute. This is a very distressing place for them to be and, in some instances, it can cause them long-term emotional harm.



With the traditional approach, the negotiations are mainly conducted through correspondence. In collaborative law, all negotiations are conducted face-to-face in meetings. This is one of the main differences between these two processes.


It’s quite normal to feel nervous when you’re meeting your lawyer for the first time. We’ll do all we can to put you at ease and we promise you’ll feel much better by the time you leave.


When deciding on a fair financial settlement in a divorce, the court has to balance the reasonable needs of each party and those of the children. This includes housing needs and income needs. It can be a very difficult exercise to perform, but it’s a crucial element of matrimonial law.


As mediators, we have to adopt a neutral position at all times when mediating for a couple. This is very different to the role we perform as lawyers when we have to act at all times in accordance with our client’s best interests.



Undoubtedly you’ll feel this at times.


This is one of the types of injunction that can be obtained in cases involving domestic violence. If granted by the court, it forces the violent party to leave the home. Breach of an occupational order is a criminal offence.


When completing your financial statement (Form E), the more organised you are with the documentation attached to it, the lower your legal bill.


Whether we’re mediating for you or acting as your lawyer, we will at all times discuss your objectives and keep them under review throughout your time with us.

Next week, we look at the P, Q & R of Family Law.

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