This week, we discuss topics such as parenting after parting, quarrels, respect and reconciliation.
We know how much it hurts.
PARENTING AFTER PARTING
Although your relationship as husband and wife will have come to an end, you’ll still have an on-going relationship as mum and dad if you have children. Parenting your children together after a separation or divorce can be difficult. We’ve an excellent brochure available with really useful tips on how to successfully achieve this – click here for a copy.
The document signed by both the couple and their collaborative lawyers at the start of the collaborative law process stating that no-one will apply to the court.
Use the past as a library not a home.
In financial court proceedings, each party has the opportunity to raise a questionnaire detailing queries and requests for further documents that they’d like from the other party.
You’ll no doubt have already spent a lot of time and energy on this already with your partner. Our aim is to try and deal with matters in a way which lessens the potential for there to be even more.
“You can’t get a quart out of a pint” – one of our District Judge’s common phrases when being asked to decide how a modest family pot should be divided between the parties to meet both their needs.
Amidst the turmoil and stress, try to find just one quiet moment each day, even if it’s just for a few minutes.
If you have children, it’s imperative that you both respect each other’s roles as mum and dad, and that that respect is shown to each other in front of the children. We’re not saying this will be easy, but we can’t stress enough how important it is for your children’s emotional welfare.
In any contested financial hearing, there are a range of orders that can be made, all of which can be described as reasonable. Judges have a very wide discretion as to how to apply the law and three different judges looking at the same case will likely come up with three different solutions.
There may be some aspects of your case where additional expert input is required. For example, a pension expert may be needed to report on how the pension provision should be shared. We’ve worked closely with a panel of experts over the years and we can, if needed, make a referral on your behalf.
Some couples reconcile along the way. If the reconciliation lasts for 6 months or more but then sadly breaks down, any divorce proceedings will have to be started over again. If the reconciliation lasts for less than 6 months, it’s possible to continue with the current divorce proceedings where you left off.
Look out for the S & T of Family Law next week.